I am a huge fan of Spiderman and I've always thought about Uncle Ben´s famous last quote to Peter Parker.... "With great Power comes great Responsibility."
Well, I guess Ben is correct here, but, I think the other way around is even more true.
WITH GREAT RESPONSIBILITY COMES GREAT POWER.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE. Don't blame other people and let them take that from you.
If you make yourself personally responsible for everything that happens around you... Your love life, your job, your success, you will be in control.
You will have your free agency, and even if you make a few mistakes, you will become better and happier.
I highly recommend this talk by Lynn Robbins:
In it he tells a story of a part of a company that was doing a poor job. They kept doing poorly and were blaming everyone but themselves until their boss got fed up. He told them they needed to be 100% percent responsible in order to receive their raise. This meant making phone calls to ensure other parts of the process were doing their job. And what resulted was something amazing... They took 100% responsibility and the company as a whole benefited.
We have 100% control over our lives, our loves, our anger.... Do not give anyone a part of your agency by not forgiving.
LOVE YOU ALL,